Showing posts with label toddlers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label toddlers. Show all posts

Monday, May 7, 2012

No More Monkeys Jumping on the Bed!

If I can count the innumerable times I've had to tell my 3 1/2 year old "Stop jumping on the bed/couch or you'll fall and hurt yourself!", I'd start growing grey hair!
I'm sure many of my dear mommy (or daddy) friends can identify with this well.  Especially when dealing with a rambunctious toddler. They can't really grasp the fact that they are putting themselves in harms way, they only care that whatever they're doing is seriously some fun stuff. Right?

Well, while my husband and I always beamed at the fact that either one of us have never broken a bone in our lives and come from a family of strong bones, and the fact that our daughter loves her milk (and lots of it), the inevitable happened -- our little "monkey" fell and fractured a bone.

Geez! As if our poor little one deserves to go through anymore pain.  Just a couple of weeks before then she caught a horrible flu with high fever.  And yes, this very enervated Preggo-Mom pretty much had it too.

How did it happen? Quick! I was in the kitchen preparing her lunch and could clearly see her playing on the couch while doing so.  She was playing some sort of super-girl game jumping from the couch to the floor and I've already warned her that she needs to stop and be careful or she'll fall.  Little did I know I was right this time.  
You see our little girl isn't your average "girl". She's far from girly-girl! She's very active, gives her boy-cousin a run for his energy and spunk, has fallen plenty of times while playing only to laugh it off (she even tumbled down a couple of steps once with nothing but a quick scared cry) -- we didn't worry too much about her while playing knowing that she was a tough cookie.

She jumped from the couch only to fall directly on her right arm and then came that awful cry.  You know moms, that cry when you definitely know that there is something wrong, that this isn't an ordinary "ouchie".
I quickly ran to her side, lifted her up slowly from her neck while tears streamed down her cheeks and sobbing "Oww! Mommy, oww!" 
I checked her body, her arms, everything.  She didn't look bad. Didn't notice anything different.
Her arm was fine when I asked her to move it slightly. But for some reason, every time I went near her right side, specifically her upper arm/shoulder, she would start sobbing.
My husband and I iced her shoulder/collarbone as we began to see some redness in that area and assumed she just really hurt her collarbone/shoulder. We waited it out to see how she would feel and of course I contacted her family doctor *thankfully my sister works there & very closely with her family doc*.

She just didn't look right to me...
As the hours passed, we constantly contemplated taking her into the emergency dept. at our local hospital but she fell asleep and seemed okay. At the same time this all happened, I had a very important ultrasound at the hospital (my anatomy scan) and had to jet off to it.  I was trying to get her to come with me but she insisted she didn't want to be moved and cried to stay home and lie down.  So I didn't force her, I let her rest at home (with hubby. He was off for the day; suppose to come with me to my anatomy scan to see baby).
It was such a chaotic hour.  I was crying and worried on my way to my anatomy scan about Ava (which was dangerous being pregnant and driving).

Called to check up on her, hubby said she was knocked out. I thought okay she was fine.
When I got home from my scan, she awoke and seemed in good spirits, but again upon trying to touch her to check, she started crying in fear and pain.
My motherly instinct was telling me that I had to take her in and now.
That alone was so difficult and scary for us.  She was in pain, she didn't want to get in the car, and she didn't want to be touched.  I was a mess.
Regardless of her horrible cries, we bundled her up in a blanket and took off to Emerg.

I was so glad that they tended to us very quickly and Ava got in to get checked and X-Ray done in less than 10 minutes since we got in to register.
We were SO surprised (yet very proud) of how our little trooper handled everything (although in pain and of course a little scared).

They placed a sling on her as soon as she got checked saying it was definitely a clavicle fracture and the X-Ray confirmed it.  

The doctor did say that it was a very tiny one so *phew* Thank God! And he also mentioned clavicle fractures are very common in younger children as their collar bones don't completely harden until adulthood (and of course the fact that they are so active!).  She was expected to wear the sling continuously for 2-3 weeks if needed, advil for pain and to keep her mobility low and that it would heal on it' s own.

Fractured bones got nothin' on me! 

Everyone I knew that had gone through this have told me that the little one's heal super fast. Boy, were they bang on!
Within 3 days or so, her pain dissipated and within a week at her follow-up at the Fracture Clinic, the doctor said she was recovering very well, had her raise her right arm (which she did slowly with caution) and he said we can remove her sling now (just keep mobility low for a couple more weeks).
Ava didn't want to remove her sling.  It was security for her and although we reassured her she was better without out, she wasn't having it. So we allowed her to keep it on. 2 days later, she allowed us to remove it and now she's sling-free! Woo-hoo!

Now for you all that have not experienced this yet, I thought I'd share some helpful info should you ever need it.

What are the symptoms?
If a baby/child has a broken collarbone, she probably won't want to move her arm on the side of the break. She may hold it close to the side of her body, although this may instead be a sign of nursemaid's elbow.

She'll have pain (she may cry out if you pick her up under her arms, for example) and perhaps swelling, and you may see bruising or a bump where the bone is broken. Within about a week, she'll develop a lump (called a callus) where the bone is healing. Sometimes this lump is the only sign of a fracture in a baby/child.

How is a broken collarbone treated?
The doctor will examine your child to make sure that no nerves or blood vessels were damaged when the bone was broken. He'll order an X-ray to see how bad the break is and exactly where it's located.

Many broken collarbones heal just fine without surgery, although sometimes the arm needs to be immobilized on the side of the break to allow the bone to heal. The doctor may use a sling or something called a figure-of-eight brace, which pulls your child's shoulders back and holds everything in the right position for healing.

The doctor can show you the best way to lift and position your child to keep from hurting her until she's healed. He may suggest giving your child children's acetaminophen to relieve pain and applying an ice pack for the first 48 hours (15 to 20 minutes at a time every two to three hours or so throughout the day) to reduce swelling.

How long will it take to heal?
The pain will go away in two to three weeks, but it takes eight weeks for the bone to become strong again. The callus may take about six months to disappear. Once the bone has healed, your child will most likely be perfectly fine, with no long-term effects from the break.

Ever since this event, Ava still keeps her right arm close to her body and is now a little more cautious when it comes to playing and jumping, especially on the couch and bed.
But of course, kids will be kids! Stay safe little monkeys! 

Credits: BabyCenter.com

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Wednesday, March 7, 2012

Easter Chick Card


Did you know that March is National Craft Month?
Well, I didn't know either until I seen it on Twitter, but that got me really excited because we LOVE arts and crafts in this house.
Since Easter is following in the first week of April, how about this adorable craft card?
Everyone loves a craft that uses a child's hands to create it.  This cute and sunny yellow Easter chick card I found on Kaboose.com makes a perfect holiday greeting for Mom, Grandma or anyone that you care to share it with.

EASTER CHICK CARD 
Difficulty: Easy
Ages: 3 and up


What you'll need:
  • Print the Easter Chick Card sheet (PDF)
  • 2 sheets of yellow construction paper
  • 1 sheet of orange construction paper
  • 2 paper fasteners
  • 2 large wiggle eyes
  • White craft glue
  • Scissors
  • Pencil
  • Black permanent marker or dark crayon
How to make it:
  1. Trace child's hands onto yellow construction paper and cut out.
  2. Use the oval pattern or draw an oval onto the other yellow piece of construction paper. Cut out.
  3. Lay the oval on the table and position the wings (hand cut outs) behind it, using the photo as a guide.
  4. When the wings are where you want them, carefully poke the fasteners through the construction paper to attach the wings. Using fasteners allows the wings to flap up and down.
  5. Using the pattern provided, cut out beak and legs from the orange construction paper.
  6. Fold the diamond in half to create the beak and glue one side of the diamond to the yellow paper so that the beak is three dimensional and can open and close.
  7. Glue wiggle eyes above the beak.
  8. Position the legs under the oval. When you have them where you want them, glue them in place.
  9. Use the marker or dark crayon to write a message on the front of the card.

Tips:
  • If you don't have wiggle eyes you can simply draw eyes on with a marker, or use black and white construction paper to create your own.
  • If you have it available, cardstock is much sturdier than construction paper and will resist tears better.
  • Before poking the fasteners through the body of the chick, use a sharp pencil to poke a hole through. Then insert the fastener.
For more Easter Craft ideas, check out Kaboose's Favourite Easter Crafts. Great for toddlers and smaller children!

Happy Easter Crafting!
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Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Screaming: The New Spanking?


Think of this scenario. You've had a very exhausting work week, your boss piled on the work and didn't even thank you for completing a major project. Your husband is working overtime hours again and the kids are being well, extra "yummy" today.  You have no time for dinner, so you pick up some healthy take-out (yes, that can exist) and when you get home to feed your grumbling tummy and those of your whiny children (let's just add a headache to the mix), you find that they are missing 2 major items you ordered. Ugh! 
Does this sound sort of familiar?
Are you just about ready to pull your hair out?


Plain and simple, when Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. Am I right, or am I right? 


When you’re stressed out, tired, hungry, frustrated, your patience is at a minimum and when your child does something, anything that gets the best of you, what do you do? 
You yell right? Don't sit there and act like you don't because we all do! Well, according to a New York Times article, most parents do.


Don't beat yourself up.  It happens to the best of us. You can blame yelling on all sorts of factors today like multitasking, lack of time, squeezing in quality time, well, a whole host of things that are daily occurrances for most families.
It's so hard to keep your cool when you're under so much stress.


I know that personally I stay far away from spanking my child.  Yes I admit, there were times I have slightly spanked her hand to teach her no touching!  Especially when it's something that can really hurt her.  But not hard enough to really harm her.  This is far from the culture I was raised in where spanking was actually recommended and the proper way to discipline your child. It's frowned upon this day and age and I can understand why.  There are plenty of other ways that you can discipline your child.


But has screaming become the new spanking?  


Instead of the spanking, parents yell now. And they yell a lot. It’s more socially acceptable than spanking your kid, at least in public. And even though Dr. Spock says that shouting was “inevitable from time to time,” it leads to parental guilt. Who needs more of that?


Imagine being yelled at by your boss or another person close to you.  Sucks, huh? I know I'd be disturbed.


I'm dealing with a mini Queen of Yelling right now. She just turned three this past October and her voice just got a lot louder!  She scares me sometimes!  Have we battled it out before? Umm... *hangs my head in shame* yeah, we have. Ha-ha! I know, I know, she's three! And I'm the parent! 
I can't even imagine when she's a teenager. *Shudders at the thought*


These professionals also warn that it can be damaging to a child’s sense of well being and self-esteem. I’ll attest to that. It does take its toll in a big way. I mean, I still flinch at the thought of making my yelling parent angry. And I’m 28.


Psychologists and psychiatrists generally say yelling should be avoided. It’s at best ineffective (the more you do it the more the child tunes it out) and at worse damaging to a child’s sense of well-being and self-esteem.
As much as I sort of agree with this, I still think as long as the tone is right and your child knows you mean business in a non-threatening manner, it should help.  I'm learning everyday how to control my tone with her.
Still, there are those moments.  You know those moments. 

So do I think yelling is OK? Yes! I think it's fine. As long as it's done correctly and in a way that you're questioning them to re-think their actions and not to frighten them.
And remember that the younger they are, try to learn and tone it down a bit.  They are still learning and screaming may be more damaging than helpful.

What do you think? Do you think Screaming is the new Spanking? Do you think it's wrong to yell at your child?  What methods have worked for you when disciplining your kids?

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Wednesday, November 23, 2011

I confess...

I have an itty, bitty secret, that relates to my parenting, and I may not be very proud of.
My little girl that just turned three this past October 29 is still on that pacifier. There! I said it! 

I don't know why I feel the need to be ashamed and embarrassed to admit it.
Is it because some moms look at it to be evil? Will I look like a bad mother because I'm allowing my toddler to soothe herself? Am I really ruining my daughters teeth?

I thought Potty-Training was going to be a lot tougher, boy was I wrong. Nicking the Paci has proven to be the most difficult challenge to date for me in my parenting journey.


Okay, let's be clear.  She doesn't walk around with a pacifier in her mouth (that I find to be a tad disturbing).
She's three.
She knows she's a big girl and will only use her pacifier to sleep. I remove it as soon as she falls asleep.
I have tried everything: books, movies, putting in an envelope to be sent to a baby who needs it, Binky Fairy took it disappearing act... nothing worked. What we were left with was a toddler that did not want to sleep. No matter how tired she was.
Mix that with her tendency to get terrible night terrors if her sleep schedule is wacky and you've got long, sleep less nights... for all of us!

I've spoken with my dentist and pediatrician and have read up on many articles concerning this very touchy subject and am fully aware of the good, the bad and the ugly of pacifier usage.

Ava is extremely intelligent for her age (and trust me, I'm not just saying it because she's my daughter). 
She learns and picks up things so quickly and her communication/speech is more than perfect! In fact, she started speaking very well shortly after her 24 month birthday.
So am I concerned about poor speech development? Not at all.

Recently, I received this wonderful book from the Pacifier B Gone System, which is also a PTPA winner, called Now I'm Big: It's Time for The Binky Fairy to Visit.

This book was soo good in fact that we were very close to shipping "Sucky" away to Binky Land with Binky Fairy. She really wanted to give it away to a little baby that needed it.
The envelope was sealed and signed and everything.
Well, lasted a few hours. Bedtime came along and along with her security blanket (another thing attached to her hip), she wanted her sucky.
We'll keep trying! ;)


Here's another thing I will admit. I was a thumb-sucker. I sucked my thumb from fetus to 6 years old! Do I have bad teeth  or an over or under bite now? No. In fact, I have never had any braces and my teeth are perfectly aligned. I've also never had any major tooth issues to this day aside from a few cavities/fillings growing up as a child.
And I happen to like my smile. :D

So really, should I be so hard on myself and feel the need to have to always defend the fact that my daughter still uses her "sucky" (as she calls it) to fall asleep at night?
NO.
We are working, everyday, to say buh-bye to binky. No pressure on our little one. She's a big girl now and she constantly reminds me of that. It won't be long till she realizes that big girls don't need pacifier's.

Unless, she decides to never let this habit go. Do they sell adult pacifiers anywhere? :p
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Tuesday, November 15, 2011

No More Snack Time Spillage! Introducing another PTPA Winner...

The GYRO BOWL!
Perfect name because although it's pronounced JIE-RO, we like to refer to it as HE-RO because it has indeed come to the rescue in our home!
Ava is a snacker. And when you have a little snacker, there are bound to be a lot of messes.
In fact, I spend a lot of my time cleaning up little messes here and there -- grapes, crackers, banana pieces, cheerios, etc. Find them everywhere around the house, including all over my carpet, couches and bed.

My family and I were introduced to The Gyro Bowl from PTPA and I just knew right off the bat that this was one product that we just had to try.  Ava would be the best tester for this. :p





What exactly is the Gyro Bowl? And what is the difference between other deep scoop snack containers?
The Spill Proof Gyro Bowl eliminates the mess. 
The unique design always keeps the open side facing up. 
Rotates 360° so kids can swing it or hold in any position without spilling while enjoying snacks anywhere. Includes stay fresh lid to keep food and snack fresh. Sturdy design and material mean this bowl can take a toll. 
BPA-free plastic. Dishwasher safe. 
7" diameter, inner bowl 3.5" diameter.


As you can see from the video -- no spills!
She can even eat her cereal with milk and have minimal spillage.  Although this bowl is fantastic with eliminating messes, it can't guarantee it can save some minor liquid spills. So you may just want to be careful with the liquids.  This bowl is intended more for regular snacks and dry food.

I love how there is a seal tight lid that comes with it so I can chop up her snacks in advance, seal it with the lid and keep in the fridge to keep the freshness for when we need it. It's a great travel companion -- to the playground (the kids and parents are amazed by the way with this super cool-looking contraption), grocery store, in the car, etc.

I highly recommend this product for your children. The style of it is also helpful in transitioning to different ages. So it's not just for the little ones. It can be used by the kids as they get older as well!

You can view more details on the Product Website: www.buygyrobowl.com or at www.ptpamedia.com
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Friday, September 16, 2011

List of Healthy Snack Ideas for Toddlers

Is your tot too busy — or full — to eat much at mealtime? Healthy snacks help toddlers get the nutrients they need to grow big and strong.


toddler eating and nutritionDespite what your mother used to tell you when you were a kid, snacks don’t have to spoil your appetite. In fact, when it comes to toddlers, healthy snacks should be a staple of their diet. It’s practically impossible for toddlers, with their tiny tummies, to eat as much as they need at mealtimes. 
And even if it were possible, you’d be hard-pressed to get a toddler to sit long enough at the table to eat a large meal (after all, toddlers are a lot more interested in playing than eating). 
So nourishing snacks are needed to fill in the nutritional gaps — and to keep those little tummies filled up. And if that’s not reason enough to keep the healthy snacks coming, consider this bonus: Snacks at regular intervals mean fewer hunger-fueled meltdowns.
What’s the best meal plan for your tot? 
Think six mini-meals instead of three squares a day — aiming for a meal or filling snack every two to three hours. 
This will keep your toddler’s tummy satisfied and his blood sugar and energy levels stable. Here’s the mini-meal breakdown: breakfast, a healthy snack mid-morning, lunch, another healthy snack in the afternoon, dinner, and then a final healthy snack in the evening before bed. Try not to let your toddler graze constantly throughout the day. Such all-eating all-the-time habits can lead to overeating — and an overweight tot. The six mini-meal solution, with food coming at set times, will help him learn to recognize when he’s hungry and full — and will lay a good foundation for maintaining a healthy weight throughout his life.

Now that you know when to serve those healthy snacks, your next hurdle is to figure out what those healthy snacks should be. Ideally, a healthy snack consists of a carbohydrate, a protein, and a fruit or vegetable. But in a pinch, you can simply offer your toddler a serving of whatever food groups he may have missed at mealtime. For instance, if your child had a whole-grain waffle for breakfast, he’s gotten a high-fiber carb serving, so at snack time you could offer a slice of cheese (to cover the dairy and protein) along with some cut-up fruit (for extra fiber and nutrients). Or say your toddler ate a turkey burger on whole-wheat bread (protein and fiber) for dinner, you could serve him mixed berries with yogurt (more nutrients and fiber along with dairy) for dessert later in the evening.
Need some healthy snack ideas? Try these the next time your toddler is hankering for a bite to eat:
  • Ants on a log — spread peanut butter on celery sticks and sprinkle them with raisins (Experts used to recommend waiting to serve peanuts until a child was age two or three — to help prevent a peanut allergy. But now, experts believe there may be no benefit to waiting that long. Talk with your pediatrician about when you should offer your tot peanuts and other allergenic foods, especially if food allergies run in your family.)
  • Whole-grain tortilla chips topped with veggies, salsa, and shredded cheese, alongside guacamole for dipping
  • Apple slices with string cheese or peanut butter (if your pediatrician says it’s okay to introduce peanuts to your toddler now)
  • Frozen no-sugar-added fruit bars with a glass of milk
  • Berries topped with a smidge of low-fat frozen yogurt
  • Crinkle-cut carrot “chips” with hummus
  • Whole-wheat pita-bread triangles or baked wheat crackers with melted reduced-fat cheese for dipping
  • Dip a banana in yogurt, roll it in crushed cereal, and freeze it for a tasty frozen snack
  • Whole-wheat tortilla chips with bean dip
  • Low-fat yogurt topped with granola and fresh or dried fruit
  • Cottage cheese with cut-up peaches, nectarines, pineapple, or bananas
  • Whole grain, fiber-rich cereal with (or without) milk
  • Graham crackers with applesauce for dipping
  • Yogurt smoothie made with low-fat yogurt, milk, ice, and any fruit (toddler favorites include bananas, strawberries, blueberries, and cantaloupe)
  • Baked whole-grain crackers with almond butter, and four to six ounces of 100 percent fruit juice (you could also dilute the fruit juice in carbonated soda water to give your toddler a fizzy, fruity drink)
  • Canned salmon mixed with low-fat mayo and spread on baked whole-grain crackers or celery stalks
  • A graham cracker sandwich filled with a scoop of frozen yogurt and sliced bananas
  • A small baked potato with melted reduced-fat cheese and salsa
  • Graham cracker with low-fat cream cheese, along with four to six ounces of 100 percent juice (you might consider diluting the juice to make it last longer and to cut the sugar quotient)
  • Whole-grain pretzels, soy crisps, baked pita chips, or rice cakes with a slice of cheese
  • Cucumbers, celery, or red peppers with low-fat dressing for dipping
  • All-fruit fruit leather with a glass of milk
  • Mix one cup of whole-grain oat cereal with 1/4 cup chopped walnuts and 1/4 cup dried cranberries for a healthy trail mix

Credits: whattoexpect.com
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Monday, August 15, 2011

Toddler Negotiations? No way!




FUTURE DEAL MAKERS JUST WANT COOKIES!

TODDLERS ARE NOT KNOWN FOR BEING RATIONAL CREATURES. WITH THEIR BODIES AND MINDS DEVELOPING RAPIDLY ON SO MANY FRONTS, LOGIC AS WE THINK ABOUT IT IS JUST NOT THERE. ANGRY THAT THE COLOR ORANGE EXISTS COULD BE REASON ENOUGH FOR AN ALL-OUT TANTRUM! AS SUCH, YOU MAY HAVE HEARD THE ADMONITION, “DON’T NEGOTIATE WITH A TODDLER!” COMPROMISE IS NON-EXISTENT AND UNDERSTANDING “SWEETIE, I’LL MAKE YOU A DEAL…,” WON’T COME FOR SEVERAL MORE YEARS.



toddler-negotiating




While it’s true that you can’t negotiate with a toddler in a way we would think reasonable as adults, it doesn’t mean you can’t negotiate and bargain with them at all. You just have to do it on their level. You need to think like a toddler if you are going to bargain like a toddler. Simplify your world view or even get down on the floor with them to see it from their point-of-view. Along the way you need to:

  • Understand what you are teaching
  • Keep the negotiating simple
  • Pick the battles carefully

Remember you are the parent, not another toddler.


LIFE IS NEGOTIATION
When you think about it, much of life is negotiation. And that negotiation starts early. As soon as there is verbal ability -- even before actually -- you are teaching your child about give and take. Each time you give your pre-verbal child a cracker when she’s doing that cute peek-a-boo thing? That’s negotiation. You do this, you get this in its most basic form.
As you begin to teach your child about negotiation, consider that you are teaching about trust, too. Say what you mean and mean what you say in every negotiation from toddlerhood on up. Your child will learn that he or she can believe you when you say this or that -- even if he or she doesn’t always like what is being said.


KEEP IT SIMPLE
If you’re going to negotiate with a toddler, keep it simple and clear and immediate. No multi-step instructions for that cookie two hours from now -- yet. If you are trying to do one thing and you want or need your child to do one thing, keep the focus there and in the span of just a few minutes. “Later” is not a concept your child can grasp in these early years.


PICK YOUR BATTLES
Think carefully about what you will and won’t negotiate. You may choose to engage in a little negotiation over toys at playtime -- but not at meal time. Maybe you’ll make little bargains with your child on the way to playgroup, but not at naptime. What is open for negotiation?


WHO’S THE BOSS
Getting down on your child’s level and trying to understand their point of view in terms of negotiating the world can be lots of fun and help you understand the wonder and challenge of the world opening up to your child. But don’t forget that you are the parent, and not every exchange needs to be or should be negotiating on your toddler’s level. There are times when you must discipline instead of deal and make the decisions instead of bargain.


Sure, it’s “crazy” to bargain with a toddler if you expect them to behave like little adults, toddlers can engage in simple deal-making. Keep it simple, pick your battles, remember who’s boss and you’ll be well on your way to teaching your toddler effective bargaining skills!




Credits: sheknows.com


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