It was such a refreshing thing to see on television amongst the plastic and drama you usually get suffocated with on the tube these days.
She scurried into the office, placed a jelly bean on my lap and said, "Mommy. Here's your magic beans." I smiled and replied, "Why thank you! What happens when I take my magic beans?"
"You become big and strong! And your eyes turn blue!"
Huh? I gave her a puzzled look and proceeded to eat the "magic bean's".
"Why would my eyes turn blue? I like my eyes brown." Ava giggled.
"Because it's beautiful!"
"I think brown eyes are beautiful too."
"But blue eyes are nicer, mommy!"
Okay. Not sure where and when she got the idea that blue eyes were more beautiful than brown eyes (or green eyes, or hazel eyes for that matter)
My husband and I make it a point to not only compliment and praise our little girl for her outer beauty but on her inner beauty and intelligence too.
We want to raise a strong, confident yet humble & loving smart young lady that takes pride in who she is and where she came from and to love every little "flaw" and perfect thing about her.
Everything that makes her was shaped and artistically etched from every little part of her mommy and daddy... with love. Hating something about her looks, makes her hate something about ours.
She needs to grow to love everything about her.
I'm not one to talk though. For many years, I hated my forehead. I thought it was too big. And on top of that, when I was a year and half, a bad fall left me with a nasty scar on my forehead to remember... forever.
For many years growing up, I attempted to cover up these "flaw's" by adding bangs and makeup to somehow make my forehead look smaller and minimize the scar.
As I got older, I started realizing that it didn't even look bad and that my mom (who I got the "larger" forehead from) proudly embraces hers and is beautiful with it! So I started embracing mine.
It's a family thing and I should wear it proudly.
Tyra Banks, a former Victoria Secret Model, also suffered from "big forehead anxiety". She's one of the most gorgeous women out there! And plenty other beautiful women in the limelight rock their big forehead's - loud and proud.
Miley Cyrus, a teenage sensation, has a scar on her forehead that you pretty much bypass because of her awesomeness!
And we all know of one very famous comedian that sports her facial scar without care - Tina Fey!
Aside from the forehead's and scar's, there are plenty other "flaw's" that we all complain about - Men and Women both.
I came across this youtube video by Caitlyn Crosby that I was completely inspired by and just had to share with my readers (if you haven't already seen it).
She created this video to highlight men and women, including Crosby, showing off their natural beauty.
Many have contributed to the video and website campaign, including Jennifer Love Hewitt, Jordan Sparks, Zachary Levi, Margaret Cho, American Idol's Jason Castro, Russell Simmons, Linda & Brooke Hogan, Brie Larson, Avatar's Joel David Moore, Olivia Munn, Mary Elizabeth Winstead, Charlyne Yi, Emily Osment of Hanna Montana, as well as hundreds of fans who want to show off their flaws!
View the video and more at www.caitlincrosby.com and www.loveyourflawz.com - Song and Album available here: http://itunes.apple.com/us/album/flawz/id310738706.
Of course, for many people, the opportunity to correct a perceived flaw is a welcome one, and the results come with a renewed sense of confidence and self-esteem. I suppose it all depends on how you view your imperfections: for some, they truly are flaws in need of repair, while for others, gaps, birthmarks, and scars aren't imperfections at all, but rather a piece of oneself to celebrate and be proud of, things that shouldn't be hidden or fixed, but should be held up as unique and beautiful in their own way.
What “flaw” that is a unique part of you do you think it is time to embrace?
2 comments:
I, too, have a large forehead....and cover it up with bangs....I feel that I just look better with them. I have contemplated growing them out again (as I did when I was 17 - and cut them again when I was 22, and about to get married). I get to that point where they are too long to be bangs....and CHOP! They are back again! Maybe someday, I'll make the change - but am TERRIFIED to do so...ha, scared of a hair change at 32 years old.
I wanted bangs when I was a teenager and the hairdresser said it would not look good on my cos I had a small forward. I was so embarrassed. It took me years after that to get bangs. I love my bangs.
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