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Seriously. I'm so darn sick of people thinking I'm such a bitch just because I say what probably everyone else wants to say.
This is the misconception about me.
Not just from those that don't really know me, but even from my own family and friends.
They think that I can be too honest.
And that sometimes I need to learn to not say anything at all.
My mother is very old-fashioned and far from confrontational. She likes peace and harmony and teaches us to forgive, forget and just be sweet, caring girls. That's all fine and dandy, Mom. I respect you for your big heart and teaching us to be ladies but I really don't think that's all to being a strong woman.
I have a daughter now and I want, more than anything, for her to make sure she's never afraid to say what she's thinking. To be confident in her decisions in life and to fight for what she feels is right.
Even if many will not agree with her.
At the same time, I still want her to be sweet, humble, empathetic and courageous.
People tend to like to "sweep things under the rug" to avoid bigger problems and arguments.
Metaphorically speaking, sweeping dirt under a rug will not make it go away, it'll only make it worse and eventually will require more extensive cleaning at some point later on.
If I was to ever see something that wasn't right, you better believe I will have something to say.
Too many iniquitous people get away with their actions in this day and age. You want to know why? Because others around them that know they're wrong just don't have the guts to say anything.
What does that leave us with? A growing epidemic of lewd and indecent people that continue to expand and believe that they will and can say and do anything to get what they want or prove themselves always right.
I do understand that sometimes things are better left unsaid. And there are times I completely agree with that, especially if it will truly be damaging and hurtful to someone. See, I happen to be a very compassionate person.
I don't want to see people hurt. I don't get a high off that at all. But what I do want to see is the wrong be corrected and for others to start accepting that.
Can we just start standing up to this behaviour once and for all? And can we start supporting and allowing others to speak their minds for the good?
I'm not a heartless and defiant bitch.
I'm still a lady with a really big heart that just happens to have the fortitude and boldness to speak my mind. Not to harm anyone emotionally, but to make them realize that you know what... you're wrong.
I'll take character over reputation. Your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are. ~ AJ Perez
4 comments:
There are times when it's better left unsaid and I can say that I'm the type that likes to avoid confrontation but I do agree with everything you are saying. There needs to be more boldness and honesty in this world but from good & genuine people, not those that are out to harm others with bad intentions.
I really enjoy reading what you have to say. You are not afraid to speak your mind and I respect that.
It's a great thing to speak your mind but at the same time we have to make sure we know when not to speak as well. I do agree with what you are saying but I also stand behind "some things are better left unsaid." Do you think being overly outspoken could be also very damaging?
Great post!
Thanks for reading!
Lindsay: I think there's a big difference between speaking your mind and being overly outspoken or without tact. You must always think before you speak and not with the intention to harm anyone.
That's what I mean when I say speak your mind but with compassion & empathy.
Thanks for your thoughts! :)
I also try to speak out whenever i see wrong. But depending on the situation, sometimes i try not to make matters worse, and keep my cool
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